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Forgiveness Deux

How do we begin to forgive someone?  That is a very good question to which my answer would be, “I don’t have a clue”.  However, I think that a good place to start would be for us to start by acknowledging the hurt that has been caused.  So many times we bury the hurt and pain by saying, “I’m okay” or “Whatever”, as if it didn’t bother us at all; all the while knowing that we were hurt deeply.  Once we acknowledge the hurt, we are admitting to ourselves that it has occurred and that the pain is real.  Next, I think that we should pray and ask for guidance on how to proceed.  Should we forgive in private or should we talk with the person who has hurt us?  How should we handle the situation? Finally, I think the most important part is the forgiving, letting it go and letting God take care of the past hurts and those who caused them.

I have been stuck, held captive by the hurt of things that people have done to me in the past four years.  These were people that I trusted and I thought they meant well.  I quickly found out that they didn’t.  I was lied to and lied on.  I was given false hopes and dreams, I was taken advantage of and in some ways my character was attacked.  All by people who called me “friend”.  HA!  In these four years I have been plagued with the why me/woe is me attitude.  I prayed about it; cried about it; got mad about it and none of this really worked until recently.  Recently, it came to me that I needed to forgive.  Forgive those who hurt me not for them, but for me to be free to live my life completely as God intended.  That’s what I’m going to do right now.

Well, here it is.  “To anyone and everyone that has caused me grief and pain during 2009 – 2013, I forgive you.  It’s over I’m done and I give it all to God.  It’s time for me to live my life and be who I was created to be.  It does not matter what you’ve said or done in the past, because I’m free.  I forgive you completely.  Now, watch my smoke!”

Join me, set yourself free and live your life to the fullest!  #Live, Laugh, L.O.V.E.

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Forgiveness

Forgive- 1.  To excuse for a fault or an offense; pardon.  2. To renounce anger or resentment against.

This was not the topic for this week’s blog post, but I had a revelation about forgiving.  Many of us have been hurt many times in our lives and we have forgiven some, but then there those hurts that we can’t seem to release and forgive those who have hurt us.  I know, we’ve all heard it before “forgive, forgive, forgive;” not for the person who has hurt us, but for our own peace of mind and healing.  Every time we relive the hurtful experience we feel angry all over again.  This anger is holding us hostage and stifling our growth; it is actually blocking our blessings.

Personally, I know that I have been trapped in a state of having an unforgiving attitude towards some people who have wronged me.  I thought that I had forgiven them, let it go and moved on from these things, but I realized that this was not the case.  I now know that I have to completely and whole heartedly “renounce my anger or resentment” towards these individuals.  I have to do this so that I can advance to my next level in life and receive all that God has for me.  Don’t you want to receive ALL that God has for you?

“Be tolerant with each other and, if someone has a complaint against anyone, forgive each other. As the Lord forgave you, so also forgive each other.” Colossians 3:13 CEB

Let’s forgive those who have hurt us, so that we can break free of anger and resentment to move forward in Living Our Vision Everyday.  As always remember to Live, Laugh, Love!